Scriptures to Calm Anger
/I’m definitely a different person than I was with my first two children. I have four now and love it! Thankfully, I’m much more relaxed, focused on enjoying them, more structured but less stressed, and immensely grateful. Above all, I’ve learned how to keep my cool.
I remember with my first two, I was a young mom who felt lost. A few times my husband got home to find the three of us sitting in the rocker bawling our eyes out. 😁 It’s easy to lose sight of the prize when in the trenches of motherhood. I wish I could go back and tell that young mother, “You’re doing great! Everything will be alright.”
But unfortunately, I allowed my stress to bubble over into frustration, exhaustion, and anger. I’m not proud to say I went through a season where I battled fits of anger. It wasn’t a long season, but it terrified me. I only yelled at them a few times before God grabbed my attention:
He said, “What if I treated you that way? Look at your child. Be slow to anger and quick to forgive.” I stopped my ranting and looked at my two-year-old. Really looked at them. I saw the look of fear in my child’s eyes and it BROKE me.
I cried and apologized. It was ME throwing the temper tantrum, and it was ugly. I cried out to God to help me change, and He did. I started speaking peace and patience over myself. I wrote down a lot of scriptures on anger, peace, and patience. And it changed our home. I want to share those scriptures with you!
And enjoy this wild, wonderful ride called parenthood. No one is perfect. When you blow it, apologize. When they blow it, forgive.
Take it from a mom of four: this season of raising littles goes by too fast to not be grateful and enjoy even the tough moments. I’ve learned to let myself off the hook a bit when I need to. And to let my kids off the hook when they need it. Grace and joy are so worth it.
SCRIPTURES TO CALM ANGER
“A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.”
Proverbs 19:11 NIV
““In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,”
Ephesians 4:26 NIV
““My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”
James 1:19-20 NIV
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.”
Ephesians 4:31 NIV
“Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil.”
Psalms 37:8 NIV
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Proverbs 15:1 NIV
“Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.”
Proverbs 29:11 NIV
“Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.”
Ecclesiastes 7:9 NIV
“Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.”
Proverbs 16:32 NIV
“A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.”
Proverbs 15:18
““In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.”
Ephesians 4:26-27 NIV
“But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.”
Colossians 3:8 NIV
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
Ephesians 4:29 NIV
“It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel.”
Proverbs 20:3 NIV
“A person of honor will put an argument to rest. Only the stupid want to pick a fight.”
Proverbs 20:3 TPT
“Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.”
Proverbs 25:28 NIV
“Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.”
James 1:26 NIV
“And fathers, don’t have unrealistic expectations for your children or else they may become discouraged.”
Colossians 3:21 TPT
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV
Often, anger is a secondary emotion rooted in anxiety/fear, hopelessness, shame, etc. So dealing with fear is important.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
Philippians 4:6
“But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.”
James 3:17 NIV
